Shakespeare’s quote on life as a drama…
“All the world’s a stage and all men and women merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts, his acts being seven ages.”
A drama is an entertainment packed with emotions and feelings to captivate the attention of the audience. Each character in a drama depicts lot of emotions which are highlighted to make the show interesting.
In our day to day life too emotions play a significant role which determines an individual’s life script. Some feel the emotions for a period of time and after the experience bounce back to normalcy. Few others experience the emotions and get stuck with and are unable to move on.
Fear is a significant emotion and it manifests in many forms.
Fear of exams
Fear of change
Fear of growth
Fear of authority
Fear of intimacy
Fear of trust and so on…
Early from childhood we are encouraged to be bold but there is fear attached with a negative connotation. Fear is just like any other emotion. A person can feel the fear and use it as a positive stimulus to push himself towards progress.
In Transactional Analysis, life position of a person is a concept which provides awareness when dealing with the limitations. There are four life positions. They are,
|GET AWAY FROM
I am not OK – You are OK
|GET ON WITH
I am OK – You are OK
I am not OK – You are not OK
|GET RID OF
I am OK – You are not OK
GET AWAY FROM
A person who experiences fear tends to avoid the situation with the belief that others are powerful and he is dependent on others. He expects others to help, save or rescue him from the crisis. He continues to play the victim role until he becomes aware that there are other options to deal the fear.
A person who experiences fear strongly believes there are no other options since he is not feeling OK with self and also others. He concludes with the belief , “ No matter what I do, nothing will work.” When he feels that he is an important person and he has the capability of DOING things he becomes aware of moving on.
GET RID OF
A person who experiences fear tend to take “one up position” by replacing the real feeling fear with other feeling like anger. He admonishes, criticizes others by wearing the anger mask which protects him from the fear. When he understands that he is not feeling the real emotion and is ready to process that anger, he opts to move on.
Fear can also be replaced by sadness or happiness.
GET ON WITH
A person who experiences fear accepts the fact that he is scared and prepares himself to process the emotion with the help of a professional if needed. He is OK to feel the fear and he is OK to seek help which indicates he respects and trusts others too. This healthy life position helps him to cope up, manage and deal with his fear.
Remember! Fear is an emotion and your life position decides how you deal with it!
You are the author of your script and you can rewrite anytime!
BECOME AWARE… AND MOVE ON AT YOUR OWN PACE!
YOU ARE A WINNER!